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SeroVich

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How was your teenage years?
« on: January 16, 2024, 11:32:11 AM »
Hello users of the MotK who are older than me, I am here to know how life was when you were a teen. Was it average, wonderful, chaotic, painful, etc.?
« Last Edit: January 25, 2024, 05:27:04 AM by SeroVix »
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Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #1 on: January 16, 2024, 04:13:11 PM »
Ah... It was weird!! A lot of trying to figure my own self out, which meant a lot of pretending and a lot of mimicking others who seemed to have it together themselves. Because I didn't really know who I was yet, I didn't ever let myself be myself. Does that make sense? Looking back, I think a lot of the other kids I knew were doing the same thing. I'm sure if I met with them again we'd all be surprised at how different we are now. Everything seemed so immediately catastrophic back then too, like if I did one thing wrong then it was the end of the world. It's stressful being a teenager! When all you know is school life, it's hard to imagine other kinds of experiences. I guess it's a little like Plato's allegory of the cave. I remember the first few weeks after I graduated, I was amazed that now I had every single minute of every single day to do whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted, and how this is what the rest of my life looks like. This is what the real world looks like. It immediately put so much into perspective. I think if I had been aware of this feeling as a teenager, I would have chilled out a lot more, lol

Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #2 on: January 16, 2024, 05:59:10 PM »
I was literally a harem protagonist. Only guy in an otherwise all-female class. Though I only came to appreciate that afterwards, being too busy studying and becoming a gamer back then. Overall, I was too cold and serious, hesitant to open up to anyone (which I can attribute to bad experiences before changing schools). Now I wish I kept in touch with everyone from back then. Good thing I decided to take it easy in uni, that was a much more fun time.

Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2024, 07:10:53 PM »
I was literally a harem protagonist. Only guy in an otherwise all-female class. Though I only came to appreciate that afterwards, being too busy studying and becoming a gamer back then. Overall, I was too cold and serious, hesitant to open up to anyone (which I can attribute to bad experiences before changing schools). Now I wish I kept in touch with everyone from back then. Good thing I decided to take it easy in uni, that was a much more fun time.
You fool. Dark, edgy, mysterious, all-female class, you had all the pieces set out for you and yet you didn't use them.

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Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #4 on: January 19, 2024, 07:56:09 PM »
My teenage life was mainly a time of me figuring out how to interact with people while being myself.
I was diagnosed with Autism at ~10-11, which meant that I had learn all the hidden rules of human interaction manually, in a classroom, and then put them to action. This took a while, around 6 years (I was 18 years old when I figured it out so 6 years was 1/3 of my life). Despite this, I still made friends. Mainly others who were also "Outcasts" in ways, I heard very interesting stories from them.
I don't where they are now, but I hope they're all okay.
So overall, the teenage years were filled with me being confused on all these "hidden rules" that people expect you to know, being upset when people didn't understand me or even try to meet me halfway, and trying to cherish the few friends that I did have.
« Last Edit: January 19, 2024, 10:10:13 PM by WitheringFlowerCrown »

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Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #5 on: January 19, 2024, 08:28:13 PM »
Absolutely terrible. I was the lonely misfit kid. In primary and middle school I had maybe two decent friends, everyone else either picked on me or ignored me. In secondary school there was no more picking, for which I'm thankful, but I rarely interacted with others. Didn't even attend prom. I compensated with escapism a lot, mostly computer games and online chatrooms (most of my friendships at the time were online, though only two stood the test of time... I met my wife online too, but that was past my teens already). Well, what can I say, it was a strawberriesty time and I'm glad it's long over.

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Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #6 on: January 31, 2024, 03:13:48 PM »
I'm still a uni student, so my teenage years aren't very far behind me.  But I can definitely say that they got better as I got older.  I used to (and still do to some extent) have a good deal of social anxiety and struggled making friends in school.  I was never picked on, outside of middle school, but I had trouble fitting in with other kids and didn't really build many close relationships.  I was always on the fringe of several different friend groups, but not really part of the "core" of any of them. 
Part of the reason I didn't really get to know anyone is like how Funbil said earlier in the thread, that anytime anything went wrong it seemed like the end of the world.  It often felt like saying something awkward or misinterpreting a social cue would totally destroy a friendship, so I erred too far on the side of caution and

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Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #7 on: January 31, 2024, 03:19:00 PM »
continuing from my last post, which I accidentally hit "post" on:
I erred too far on the side of caution and didn't open up to anyone.  Looking back, I can see that people were generally nice to me and probably would have been open to being friends with me, but I simply rarely took the opportunity. 
As I grew older, I became more confident in myself and started being less afraid of other people and messing up social interactions, which made me a lot happier and more comfortable interacting with other people, although I still wouldn't say I have many close friends.  Also, I really relate to what a lot of people here are saying about figuring out hidden social rules.  I was never diagnosed with autism, but it was still hard for me to intuitively understand social interaction and I had to manually figure out a lot of the rules.  So as I got older, I understood the rules better, which made social interaction easier. 

Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #8 on: January 31, 2024, 05:02:44 PM »
continuing from my last post, which I accidentally hit "post" on:

Something that you may already know: You can modify posts after submitting them. As long as you don't massively omit something and/or modify it soon after posting, nobody will have a problem.

Good job on improving your social skills. I mainly spent my time avoiding conversations entirely since I was absolutely sure that something would go wrong, so why should I bother with it anyway? I'm glad I got out of that attitude.

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Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #9 on: February 01, 2024, 05:21:30 AM »
You can modify posts after submitting them.
Ah, very good to know.  I'm new-ish to traditional forums like this so thanks for letting me know.  Also I'm glad you were able to get better at socializing as well!

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Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #10 on: February 07, 2024, 05:31:12 PM »
Another thing, do you guys have any regrets during your teen days? I know I have my regrets also.
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Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #11 on: March 04, 2024, 06:22:05 AM »
Another thing, do you guys have any regrets during your teen days? I know I have my regrets also.

anyone who answers no to this question is a big liar :P

Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #12 on: March 04, 2024, 01:38:28 PM »
The regrets you get are valuable experience, the cringy memories a reminder of what you shouldn't do. Teen years are overall a time to make mistakes and learn from them, and preferrably to learn that it's best to learn from more than that.

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Re: How was your teenage years?
« Reply #13 on: April 01, 2024, 02:30:10 AM »
well,it's quite a longgone story to me
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